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Reviewed by <\/em>Dr. Erika Rasure<\/em><\/a>, PhD, CFT\u2122<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Debt isn\u2019t uncommon \u2014 and nor are the feelings of stress, shame and self-criticism that come with it. In fact, the way that debt impacts your mental health could actually keep you in repayment longer. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But there are ways to counter the feelings<\/a> of hopelessness and de-motivation that your debt has inspired. Here are some tips to start changing your thinking (and renew your desire to get debt-free!).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shame Makes Money Management Harder \u2014 Not Easier<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When struggling financially, we can begin to believe that if only we are tough enough on ourselves, we\u2019ll be able to permanently get free from debt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s natural. Human beings tend to internalize and learn from negative experiences<\/a> more than positive ones. But the key is how you think about those negative experiences after<\/em> they happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thinking about the origins of your debt can feel constructive: You\u2019re breaking down what happened<\/a>, why and where you messed up. But the value of that kind of self-reflection can only serve you for so long. Focus solely on the bad, and you may find plenty of reasons you\u2019re in debt, but no path out!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Self-compassion moves your mindset in the opposite direction. A compassionate approach simply means looking at reality without attacking yourself. And that makes it easier to engage with your situation and to find a way forward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Self-Compassion vs. Self-Discipline<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Thinking about your money with self-compassion isn\u2019t about pretending things are fine. It\u2019s about changing the way you talk to yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Compare these thoughts: \u201cI did the best I could with what I knew at the time,\u201d vs. \u201cI\u2019m so stupid, I can\u2019t believe I made that mistake.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first is self-compassionate: You didn\u2019t make a great choice at the time<\/a>, but you learned something, and know you can choose a better path now. But the second? It keeps you stuck in a mentality that tells you that you\u2019re \u201cstupid,\u201d so of course you made \u201cthat mistake.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Progress Without Perfection<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Much of the modern conversation about \u201cwellness\u201d revolves around restriction and discipline, and the world of personal finance is no exception. But financial well-being, like physical or mental health, rarely follows a straight line. There will be setbacks, pauses and adjustments \u2014 and none of those erase your inherent value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How Self-Compassionate is Your Thinking?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n